Chinese Bedroom Arts
By Qiu Xue Lan Ph.D (Lan Miles)
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| Don't you fall asleep, I'm not done scolding you! |
In Traditional Chinese texts the chamber arts have more to do with getting along with your mother in law than they do kinky sexual positions. What use are sexual techniques if you hate your spouse and your kids are having problems? The foundation of bedroom arts is family harmony.
Most hormonal problems have emotional roots. Finding harmony within the family is everything.
1. Be completely present. Your family are the most important to you, treat them accordingly.
2. Hang out with family more, especially your in laws. Most fights come from fear. The key to understanding your spouse is through their family.
3. Avoid fights: None of use are perfect, we all get unbalanced and screw up. Drawing attention to the tantrum won't solve anything. Rational thought is impossible for the person who is affected by emotion. Drunk on hormones they should be compassionately regarded as someone who is intoxicated. If they succeed in spreading the negative emotions, then everyone becomes intoxicated. Then reason, stability and peace are far away.
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| What we perceive |
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| What is really going on. |
4. Prepare cooling foods: If tempers are flaring, prepare more bitter or cooling foods such as cucumber, kale or broccoli. Avoid spicy foods and meat to help cool flaring tempers before they erupt. When I first got married my mother would prepare the herb xi ku cao to help cool down passion. Too much fire is dangerous. Couples who are too passionate have passionate fights. Harmony is the highest good.
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| Bitter melon is one of the most cooling foods |
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| Fruits and vegetables are largely yin and cooling |
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